A Glimpse Inside the Beginnings of Infertility Testing

If you’re a guy and reading this post it may not be your cup of tea, but you probably already figured that out by the title. Today I’m going more personal. I think it’s important for not only women, but couples in general, to realize that having a baby isn’t always that easy. Obviously for some people it is, but there are people that struggle with conception, and it’s usually a hush-hush topic. This bothers me because it’s such a sensitive and trying time for couples, especially women. I’ll be flat out honest and tell you that I’ve had more deep conversations about people that I don’t know that well about infertility than my own family and friends. It’s connected me with people that understand, and more importantly, truly care.

Photo to break up the long text ūüėČ

After the D & C back in mid/late September (you can read about it here), my main goal was waiting for a period. I got off birth control in 2012, but my periods tended to be 4-6 weeks apart and not very¬†regular. I was also working out a lot during this time, so I decreased my cardio and added more healthy fats into my diet (my doctor said I could continue running, but I just wanted the break to ease my mind). I¬† got my period after 35 days, and my cycle has continued a 5 week pattern since then (give or take a few days). However, since then I have tracked my cycle with ovulation sticks and have tried to learn more about my body’s natural cycles. I ordered Wondfo¬†cheapie strips on Amazon (they also came with pregnancy tests) back in October and also purchased a¬†Clear Blue Digital Ovulation kit. This specific one (I believe there are 2 out there)¬†gives you a smiley face when a LH surge¬†is detected.¬†I¬†don’t want to sound repetitive and say I’m cheap in each¬†post, but this¬†method is somewhat costly if your on a strict budget each month. Just giving ya’ll (can I act like I’m southern because I live in Texas?) a heads up!

I would use the cheapies a¬†few days after my period. I’ve read SO much online and know that ovulation can take place at various times during a cycle. I always thought that I ovulated later, but I needed to actually test and see. Sure enough, my tests have shown that I ovulate at the earliest thus far cycle day 19¬†(cd19) and the latest cycle day 22 (cd22). Every month, there is a 20% chance than a woman will conceive if sexual intercourse occurs when ovulation takes place. Cycles typically last anywhere between 28-35 days- if you have longer cycles than this, reach out to your gynecologist and discuss this matter¬†further. Even though we knew precisely when I¬†was ovulating, nothing happened. Hence, the day Aunt¬†Flo decides to comes to¬†town¬†is cocktail¬†day hour. It’s aggravating and makes you wonder if there is something wrong. I know many people claim that when you stop trying it happens and that it can take years, blah blah blah.¬†Well people-¬†we’d rather know if there is an underlying issue sooner rather than later. Ya know?

This is not actually true for me at all, but I think many women could relate that are struggling.

After tracking my cycle and nothing occurring, I contacted my obgyn and was scheduled an appointment within 2 weeks. She already knew my past and miscarriage experience, and I explained how my cycles have been since then (I wrote down how long each cycle was and when I ovulated for each month). She promptly said that she wanted to start infertility testing. This included:

Labs: I would have to get blood drawn that day, CD3, CD 21, and exactly 7 days after I had a positive opk (ovulation predictor kit). Tyler would also have to get blood drawn as well but only one time.

Semen Analysis- I’m sure he’s thrilled about me broadcasting this, but yes, this is mandatory of the testing to check for count and quality of the sperm.

HSG (Hysterosalpinogram)- According to my handout and the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, this is an x-ray procedure that is used to figure out whether or not the fallopian tubes are blocked or not. It is also used to determine the size of the uterine cavity. It’s an outpatient procedure and only takes about 10 minutes total to perform. It’s conducted right after menstruation has stopped and hopefully done before ovulation occurs (CD 7-CD 12).

After you’re all straddled up, a catheter is inserted¬†and dye¬†is injected¬†in you to see if your tubes are blocked or not. I’ve heard this procedure feels nothing more than a pap, and I’ve heard that it feels like someone is stabbing them. Thank you Google for getting my panties in a wad about this test. Either I have a high pain tolerance or I thought it was going to be much worse, but at any rate, I would not describe this test as¬†being painful for me. It was uncomfortable, and it honestly felt like a balloon was being blown up if that makes any sense- lots of pressure. However, just because it wasn’t horrible for me doesn’t mean it’ll be this way for everyone. I’ve heard tubes being blocked can cause more pain, but I can’t guarantee how true that is. The doctor was extremely nice and explained everything he was doing, and the nurses kept talking to me the whole time. I must note that I did take a prescribed Percocet that¬†the doctor ordered for me after my D & C which I never used (I had no pain after¬†that procedure). The doctor said it was completely fine taking it, but I¬†was nervous about this too¬†because I thought¬†it might make me¬†feel sick…which it did ūüė¶ I was nauseous and felt weird the whole day and it wasn’t fun.¬†The medicine probably helped, but I don’t really know.¬†Anyways, I was in and¬†out¬†of the hospital in 45 minutes. TJ¬†took me (so grateful his work his understanding), but was not allowed in the room.

After this procedure and finishing up¬†the semen analysis and my lab work, we have an appointment with our doctor. She’ll go over our results and hopefully come to some conclusion about the best method to approach conception from here on out.

Now, I will say that although I’m open and honest about our path to fertility and conception, that doesn’t mean that I want to be bombarded with questions if/when we do conceive, such as when¬†do¬†we find out the gender and what names do we have picked out.¬†It may sound bitchy because those questions are pretty standard, but they drive me nuts, lol.¬†Our main focus next time around is ensuring that the pregnancy is successful- bottom line.¬†I don’t want to sound harsh, but we learned a lot during the first trimester of the previous pregnancy. I’ve mentioned this before and I apologize if this is a Debbie Downer, but the two pink lines is not a guarantee- the ultimate¬†goal is to have a healthy baby¬†boy or girl in our arms, as well as a healthy mommy ūüėČ

I also must state how incredibly thankful I am for Tricare (military insurance). I know this health coverage is debatable amongst spouses, but these tests are very costly to the average person.

Have you ever gone through fertility testing? If so, what was your process like?

What advice could you give for someone that has done so?

Feel free to ask my any questions about this process ūüôā

Please send words of encouragement not only our way, but for everyone else that may be struggling!


7 thoughts on “A Glimpse Inside the Beginnings of Infertility Testing

  1. We have been going through this for the last 5 1/2 years. After 5 miscarriages and 1 ectopic I have to have my left tube removed on march 20th. I can honestly say that it is one of the most frustrating situations to be in because of it being unknown as to why it happens. All I can say is that if you need anything at all please don’t hesitate to contact me. Being able to talk about it has helped me tremendously. My doctor told my husband to try a fertility supplement that hopefully will boost his count, we will know in a few weeks if it worked. I am so sorry that you have to go through it but please know that you are not alone. Hugs!

    • I’m so, so sorry to hear this, Jen ūüė¶ I try to believe that everything happens for a reason, but it’s hard to keep that mindset sometimes…I know you understand this feeling. I’m thinking of you and sending happy thoughts your way- fingers crossed the supplement works! I will definitely be contacting you ūüôā

  2. Hey, congrats on taking the first steps! I hope you have an awesome doctor and nurse. I got pregnant after clomid and an iui the first time and the second time I was on a break because I was recovering from a miscarriage. I knew I was ovulating so I used an preseed after sex and then an instead cup from the drug store. Kind of gross. I wouldn’t tell anyone in real life. I read about it in taking charge of your fertility. Good luck!!

  3. My friend is going through this right now, so though I don’t know what you’re going through first hand, I’ve seen how much of a struggle it can be. I hope that you get positive answers from all of this testing! Thank you for sharing your story. You’re right, it’s something that people don’t like to talk about, and yet it can help so many people!

    • I hope your friend sees positive results soon! Reading a few other blogs about their struggle and finally conceiving and carrying on a healthy pregnancy has definitely helped which is why I wanted to share our experiences. Thank you for stopping by and for the warm wishes, Emily!

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