Military Stereotypes

Military Stereotypes. Yep,  I’m going there. I’m going to reference a link below, so click on it before you read my thoughts:

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These are just my random thoughts….

  • All military spouses are unemployed- No, they’re not. I’ve met a handful of spouses, both enlisted and officer’s wives, that are stay at home wives/mothers or are working. However, I’ve noticed that on both sides of the spectrum, those with one kid or several do not work. Some of them are involved in the FRG or other volunteer work though. I could honestly give a rat what anyone else does as long as they don’t get in our way. I’ve read on numerous sites/Facebook pages that it’s impossible to find a job here in El Paso because it’s such a predominant Spanish speaking community. I DO agree that it’s difficult, but not unattainable. My Spanish has gotten better since being employed, and while I don’t have the exact words to speak back to people sometimes, it’s kinda cool to know what they’re saying in a different language. I joke that I’ll be fucked if we move to Germany next and I won’t know a thing 😉
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When I was a stay at home wife, full time student 🙂 Taking this cutie to the dog park!

 

  • All military spouses are pregnant- Yep, I agree. Just kidding. I have no idea, but I DO see many young women at the hospital/clinic when I go for my appointments. I heard the super preggo girl in front of me the other day say she was born in 1998 and about crapped my pants. I’m kind of conflicted with this generalization. My husband was married before (when he was enlisted), but they choose not to have kids right away (thank God). I will say that we are out of the ordinary for our age (I’m 29 and he’s 32) and not having any children. Most of the activities on post are children oriented. Bottom line- women get pregnant all the time in general. Men: wear a rubber if you’re not married. Don’t believe that your girl is on birth control or taking it right.

 

  • They have a hill of kids at home-  I’ve seen families with 3-5 kids and some with none at all (VERY rare). Once again, don’t most families have children? Is it a proven fact that military families conceive more? I wouldn’t doubt it based on the amount of time it takes me to book a god damn doctor’s appointment for something simple, haha.

 

  • They wear their service member’s rank- I’ve never really seen this. I have seen it against me though. After it was known that my husband is an officer, it was thrown in my face that “he makes more so we can afford things” and whatnot. UMM, my husband earned what he has because he got a college degree. Seeing that he was enlisted before, he knew how to live on the salary of each rank as well. I’m proud of my husband. Like somtimes, it makes me want to cry, proud. But I’m just his lady…I’ll follow him wherever he goes, but his rank is HIS doing. I am going to make the best out of MY career wherever we go 🙂

 

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Cold as balls in Georgia, but my pinning my babe!

  •  All military spouses are uneducated- I’m not going to lie. I tend to see on social media that there are many enlisted soliders’ wives not only without college degrees, but with no high school diploma! Unless you’re a rock, graduate from high school. If you don’t want a Bachelor’s degree, at least get an associates or some other type of schooling. Look into MYCAA. Do NOT rely on your husband and his job/income to supplement your lifestyle and bearing children. I’m more of a “what if” happens kind of person…I know if the big D ever happened to us, I’d at least have my degree and experience in my favor. I also see many officer wives that have an education and not working. So yeah. It’s all situational and what works best for your family 🙂

 

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Tyler MADE me walk…then took me out for brunch 😉

 

  • All military spouses are wealthy- Who the eff said this? LMAO.

 

  • All military spouses are lonely-  Yes, field exercises and deployments are lonely. Some people deal with their loneliness by going out all the time, or unfortunately, cheating. Luckily, I’ve always been a more introverted person. Don’t get me wrong- I love being with my family and close friends, but I can handle being alone. I can organize the shit out of things, read, clean, work out, play with my dogs, make crafts, and cook/meal prep. Work takes up most of my time, but when I’m alone I try to push aside the loneliness by distracting myself with old reruns of TV shows on Netflix or music playing in the background.
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My boys have been a huge blessing during TJ’s deployment. They look out for their mommy!

 

  •  All military spouses are bossy-   Uhhh? Never heard this before. NO.

 

  • All military spouses are high maintenance-  I’ve only met a few this way. I could give two shits about designer brands (on certain things). If you’re that high maintenance, you must come from money.

 

Alright, so that’s it. What do you think about the military spouse stigma?

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8 thoughts on “Military Stereotypes

  1. I can’t sympathize as a military wife but I am a military sister and that is no where near as hard but I have watched my brother go through so much in the army and I have so much respect for our military this was a great post loved your thoughts on it!!!

  2. I’m glad I’m not the only late 20-something to not have a baby yet. Sure, I want one…but I enjoy not having one too. I hate that there aren’t more cool adult-oriented stuff to do on base…but I still go to the kids stuff. Haha! Yes for magic shows and Disney movie nights!

    HAHAHA! Military people rich? HAHAHAHA! Sure, the high ranking ones. A lot of people think my husband and I are rich, but mostly it’s the people who don’t understand a budget or saving up for what you want.

    This post is awesome!

  3. It makes me sad to see all the stereotypes that exist for military spouses especially for the officer wives. It’s not fair.

  4. I don’t feel like I’ve been stereotyped too much in real life, thank goodness. (Online is a different story LOL!) What I encounter more are stereotypes about my husband. Because he’s enlisted and infantry, people assume he is irresponsible or stupid or chose this because he couldn’t do anything else. No so. He has a college degree. He chose infantry and he chose enlisted out of a sense of duty, not because he had no other options.

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