Last night I woke up at 3am and could NOT fall back asleep. I tossed and turned and finally grabbed my ipad and headed to the living room to browse the internet. I’m weird and look up pregnancy/birth articles sometimes, and I happened to come across this one: “The 10 Most Annoying Things You’ll Hear During Your Pregnancy”. Some of them are kind of dumb and I can’t relate to them yet, but a few I completely understood…so I thought I’d talk about that today 🙂
- Do you know what you’re having? I really don’t know why but this question drives me freaking mad. My husband says it’s completely harmless (which it is) and that it just might be used for conversation, but it really irks me- we just want a healthy baby. I was asked a few times before I even started showing! Yes, most people do find out ahead of time, typically at their anatomy scan between 18-22 weeks, so I was surprised I was asked this so early, especially because of our previous loss. We were able to get the genetic screening done and find out the gender when we got those results at 14 weeks. Finding out what we’re having made the pregnancy seem so much more real. Before then, I had a difficult time connecting with the baby as I was scared…but I realized that I’m always going to be scared- that’s just who I am and my past experiences have made me more weary and realistic of things. I’m glad we found out what the gender is and part of me wanted to keep it between Tyler and I the whole time, but it got too difficult to keep it from close family members. We’ll be sharing with the rest of the world soon. However, I should mention that it doesn’t phase me at all when people ask who were there for me during the miscarriage and while TTC- those that were involved and reached out every now and then to see how I was and how things were going.
Another thing, we plan on going gender neutral with pretty much everything, so if we are lucky enough to be blessed with another pregnancy someday, I might try to persuade my husband to not find out at all! I know this is odd, but I’m not a fan of the colors blue OR pink 😉 Anyways, I truly believe it’s one of the most amazing surprises in life, and I would love to experience something like that. I was NOT on board with finding out the sex the first time- Tyler and I had quite a few arguments about it because I wanted to be surprised (just being real- not everything is a fairytale 24/7!) and he had to find out. He said he’d keep it from me, but I thought that was absolutely ridiculous. However, after our miscarriage, I could’ve had the option to find out the sex…but I didn’t. I was too torn up then and I just wanted it to be over with- I thought knowing would hurt too much. But over the past two years, I’ve found myself thinking about the baby and wondering if the little one was a boy or girl…and that made me want to know this time around. I felt like I needed to. Alright, I’m crying now just thinking about it so moving on!
- Do you have any names picked out? This one doesn’t bug me quite as much, haha. It was difficult for Tyler and I to talk about names- we actually didn’t the first three months. I’ve been thinking about names the past two and a half years though, so I had a running list of both boy and girl names in my phone 😉
- Are you going to have to natural birth? Who cares? After reading a ton of articles and blog posts from others, I learned that mommy wars are a real thing. Breastfeeding, cloth vs. regular diapers, natural vs. medicated birth, vaccinations, SAHM vs. working mom vs. work from home mom, etc.- there are always going to be women that feel like what THEY do is best. This is actually a good topic for another post…I’ll have to revisit this thought soon and give my opinion on it, haha. I’m going to have whatever kind of birth is necessary. If I can’t take it and need an epidural, then I’ll do it. Obviously I want to avoid this as much as possible, but if the doctor feels that a c-section is best or that the baby is in danger, I’ll do it. So I really don’t know 🙂 My mom had natural births with all three of her children which I thought was pretty cool!
- How are you feeling? This one doesn’t bother me at all. I think it’s kind when people ask how I’m feeling, although I’ve gotten “you’re still having morning sickness?!” and when I hear that, all the kindness is thrown out the window, haha. Yes, at 18w5d, I’m still experiencing some morning sickness, although it’s not all day anymore- it just strikes randomly. I know a few people who had bouts of sickness the entire time and my doctor says it’s alright and that every woman and pregnancy is different.
That’s pretty much it in regards to the article- the other ones are more for later on. We all know that hormones and emotions are soaring during pregnancy and I’m a bit sensitive naturally so it’s unfortunately sometimes easy to take things out of context 🙂
Have any of these annoyed you during pregnancy? Or anything else?
Did you find out the sex early?
If so, did you share the name?
Hope everyone has a happy and safe New Year! I’ll be in the kitchen today so we will be celebrating with “healthy” buffalo chicken dip, crock-pot Italian beef sandwiches, and homemade cinnachip pumpkin banana bread! I bought stuff to make kiddie cocktails and I’m sure we will just be relaxing tonight watching movies. Hopefully I make it to 10pm, haha!