Names that Didn’t Make the Final Cut

Naming your baby is one of the most fun things aspects of having a child, yet it can also be the most difficult. For starters, what sounds great to one person can sound butt ugly to their significant other. Then there’s the fact that some people may want to use a family name or they have family and friends giving their opinions. I’ve wrote about it before HERE, but we won’t be announcing her name to anyone (not just on social media) until she is here. However, I want to remember the names that were mentioned but didn’t make the cut, and I thought it would be fun to share that today! Please know, that these are our opinions. If your child is named one of these names or I say something offensive, I really don’t mean to be a B ๐Ÿ˜‰ Oh, and I’m obviously just sharing girl first names.

Whats in a name - swati raiMadelyn- This one was high on my list. I’ve liked this nameย since middle school and don’t know anyone personally that has it. It’s not the traditional spelling (Madeline), but I didn’t want it to be mistaken for Mad-a-line instead of Mad-a-lyn. I think the nickname Maddie is super cute as well ๐Ÿ™‚ Tyler was okay with this name but apparently he knows someone far, far away who named their kid this, so it was a no. No idea who it is so I don’t see how that matters, haha.

Cameron- I don’t love this name, but I like it. I actually like it better as a boy’s name, but I think it’s starting to get more popular which is a bummer. It was hard for me to imagine a baby or little girl being called Cameron, and it doesn’t sound great with our last name. This was a huge NO from Tyler anyways!

Aleksandra- Ok, I’m not into weird spellings, but I like the name Aleks (Alex is fine too, but I like it spelled with a K for some reason). It’s somewhat common, but not overly heard. However, we both know some Alex’s (girls), and sometimes people just ruin a name ๐Ÿ˜‰

Olivia- I really like this name, but Tyler never said no faster in his life, haha. I think Liv would be a cute shortened name (we wanted a full name with an option of it being shortened), but he just hated it. I didn’t protest about this one because it’s gotten popular.

Charlotte- I think Charlotte is SO cute, and while Tyler didn’t hate, he wasn’t too fond of it either.

Mallory- I liked this, but Tyler didn’t. I believe that someone in his family has the name, and we wanted to shy away from that.

Harper- Just like Olivia, I really liked Harper but Tyler thought I was effingย crazy. I knew there was very little negotiation with this one, and I wasn’t in love with it, so I didn’t push it. I think this name would get to me after saying it a couple hundred times anyways ๐Ÿ˜‰

You probably noticed that all of the names were my suggestions and Tyler denying them. He didn’t give any suggestions in regards to first names which I thought was odd, but that’s okay. Perhaps he wanted me to have more of a say in the baby’s name because I get no say when or if we have a boy and it’s only fair? I do think the father should have a say in the name- I’d never ever choose a name that my husband hated. However, us women are the one’s that go through pregnancy, labor, delivery, and all the postpartum shit, so I believe we should get the upper hand ๐Ÿ™‚

Without saying too much, I knew I wanted something with some meaning, which is why the names above didn’t really touch me. What we chose popped into my head one day, and I remember thinking it was the one…and when I asked Tyler about it, he didn’t even hesitate- he said yes. Now there are a couple that I didn’t mention in case we ever have another baby and it’s a girl…we gotta keep our runner’s up on the down low as well!

What names did you or your significant other like but you didn’t end up going with?


Life Lately- February 2016

I’ve been pretty much just writing solely about pregnancy lately (sorry about that, but I have lots to say about various aspects of it!), and haven’t given an update about what else is going on with us. So that’s what I’m going to do today ๐Ÿ™‚

While I’ve done some posts about the military life and deployment, I don’t talk about my husband’s career on here very much. However, he got promoted to Captain back in November and to say I’m super proud of him is an understatement! Once you get Captain, you go to Captain Career Course in whatever branch you’re in. My husband spent his time as a second and first Lieutenant in Field Artillery but will be Military Intelligence for the remainder of his career. Which brings me to our next topic…wemoved to Arizona!

The school he will attend is at a post in Arizona and because the move is a PCS (permanent change of station) versus a TDY (temporary duty station), I was able to go with ๐Ÿ™‚ You get a choice of what kind of move you want when you’re in the military- a DITY move which is where you pack everything yourself and move everything yourself then get reimbursed for the cost or a move where the military hires a company to come out and pack up all of your shit then a moving company comes and moves it all for you to your designated location.

We’ve never done and more than likely never will do a DITY move, but I’ve heard a lot of people say they make money off the move by doing it themselves. However, I couldn’t imagine packing our entire house with a full-time job every few months or couple of years. You’re in full control of your belongings as well and some people have had bad experiences with items getting damaged along the way. We’ve had a few pieces of furniture get a little banged up, but nothing crazy. You have to load and unload all of your furniture (I guess a lot of people get their friend to help them; however), but I’m wondering how the heck people unload everything themselves if they don’t know anyone at their next duty station? We have some nice, heavy, big ass furniture that was pretty hard to move, haha. Ive heard some people have to wait a while to get their stuff delivered to their new place, but I don’t see the big deal. It’s not like I’m going to die without my house full of shit for a week or two ๐Ÿ˜‰ Tyler’s done a handful of PCS’s, one even being to Italy, so I guess he’s one of the lucky ones that has never had an issue with packers or movers. Anyways….


What you have to do for fun when there’s no TV and you’re sleeping on a mattress, haha.

We are LOVING our new location! It’ll be nice to get out of the Southwest one day (we PCS again in September or October- only here for about 8-9 months), but it just feels so much cleaner and prettier out here (sorry El Paso, friends!). It is a much smaller town- slow paced and laid back which just feels so right at this time in our lives. There’s a Target, Walmart, Marshalls, Ross, Hobby Lobby, small mall with a movie theater, Home Depot and Loews, Petsmart and a few chain restaurants (I like local restaurants better, but oh well. We ate out a lot during the moving transition and I’m so over it for a while anyways, haha). I actually like how there are limited shopping options out here and was surprised that there’s a Hobby Lobby which is perfect as there are a few things I want to make for the baby!

I love our neighborhood (there is an HOA so neighbors can’t be complete hillbillies like at our last place!) and we’ve met one set of neighbors that are super nice. Large sidewalks are on the side of the streets and there’s a nature path- we’ve already gone on a few bike rides together and Tyler’s been running. We have a view of the mountains from the back of our house and it’s awesome to look out our bedroom window or sit out on our patio and see such peace ๐Ÿ™‚ The dogs are loving it, too. The living room and bedrooms (aside from ours) is carpeted. Our old house was all tile and they seem to like the carpet much better…although I’m anal and vacuum every other day.

View of our entryway. That puzzle of Times Square in that hallway doesn’t match, but we put it together (1000 pieces, FML) right after Tyler got home from his deployment. It was an awesome thing to do to help bond again!

Post is obviously much smaller than Fort Bliss. Fort Bliss may not be in the most ideal area, but it’s pretty bad ass- the common area is new (the PX, commissary, a handful of restaurants and shopping, and movie theater) and I’ve heard there is no other post like it yet as it was the first. I still don’t know my way around post yet but I can’t get any more lost there than I did on Bliss, haha. Some people have asked me over the years why we choose to live off post rather than on. I might write a whole blog entry about it, but for now- we just want to ๐Ÿ™‚ We’ve never lived on (well, Tyler did when he was in the barracks years ago, but that’s different), so I’m not saying one is better than the other. However, when Tyler is done with work he wants to be done and not surrounded by all things army. We also like receiving a BAH (basic housing allowance) that goes towards covering the cost of rent or a mortgage. We rented in El Paso and are renting here, but are hoping to purchase a home at our next duty station depending on where it’s at. We don’t use our entire BAH for rent- you have to think about utilities as well so you’re not overspending. You can actually make some money if your living arrangements cost less than what your BAH is. Ok, that’s enough about that. Boring!

What else…Tyler started two more grad school classes last week and only has two more left until he’s done with his Masters! The last two are capstone classes which he’ll have to write a thesis for, so with that, CCC, and a new baby, he’s going to have a busy year! The majority of his grad school classes were covered as well (he’s getting his Masters in Military Intelligence and Management), so that’s pretty damn nice, especially considering that we’re paying a pretty penny on my student loans a month to get them knocked out. He doesn’t like me talking about him regarding this type of stuff, but I’m super proud of him!


Hot chocolate and iced coffee before exploring Tombstone!

While I’m grateful that I’ve been able to stay home the past few months and continue to do so while the baby is super small, I’m also missing contributing financially and working makes me feel good- like accomplished, if that makes sense. I know it won’t be like this forever, so I’m really trying to take advantage of this time and I know it’ll be amazing once the baby comes. The tentative plan is that I’ll work once we get to our next duty station and the baby will be about 5-6 months old by then which works out perfect!

I think that’s about it. This week we plan on visiting Bisbee (we went to Tombstone and Tuscon last week which was fun!) and getting ready for our trip home. We received out crib and I’ve started a to-do list for after we get home in regards to things I need/want to do before her arrival! Hope everyone has a great week ๐Ÿ™‚

Pregnancy Update (Weeks 23 & 24)

It’s been over two weeks since I’ve posted anything because it’s been so crazy around here! Between tying up loose ends in Texas, moving to Arizona, unpacking everything and getting settled in (we don’t mess around- everything was unpacked and put in place within a few days- I can’t stand a mess or shit just laying around!), getting doctor and new OB stuff taken care of (first appointment with the new OB on the 25th), getting some things for the house, and learning our way around town- I haven’t had too much free time. And honestly, when I have had it, it’s been nice to relax with my husband since he’s on leave ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m getting this post out late as I’m already going to be 26 weeks tomorrow, but I figured better late than never!

Maternity clothes? Yes- pants, although I can still wear some normal leggings. I’m in a weird stage where my normal shirts are getting too short yet maternity tops are effing huge. I’m not petite (and my boobs have gotten huge- I’m falling out of my 34C bras so I’m pretty sure I’m a D but refuse to buy a new bra as there’s so much for the baby we need to buy, haha), but I’m smaller framed yet I’m about 5’8″ and I feel like a lot of maternity clothes aren’t made for “skinny” women (hope that doesn’t sound bad, but it’s been getting frustrating). I also don’t want to look like a garage bag in a huge t-shirt or something. I’m SO happy and proud to be pregnant and I feel good in my changing body, and I want it to show!


Trying to find a decent baby shower dress. Not successful yet.

Stretch marks? Nope!

Sleep: Sleep was absolutely awful during weeks 23 and 24. I know this had to do with the stress of the move, sleeping on a queen sized mattress on the floor for nearly two weeks with Tyler and Wrigley trying to weasel his way between us (we have a king and even though I was getting shitty sleep, I felt too bad kicking him out of the room!). I felt a lot crappier (and moodier) most days because of the lack of good sleep, too. I’d wake up due to my lower back aching as well, but I didn’t have my snoogle with me, so perhaps that was it? haha. But we got out bed back at the end of week 24 and all was well again! ๐Ÿ™‚

Best moment:ย Always, always, always feeling the baby kick. This will never get old to me. Also, it sounds weird, but I have been waiting to hit the 24 week mark which is when the baby’s chances of surviving outside of the womb start increasing. Nothing is a sure thing in life, but this brought us a little comfort, and I know each passing day will only bring us that much closer. Finally moving was a pretty great moment as well. We have been waiting for this for months, and while El Paso wasn’t too bad, we were ready for change and to start a new chapter. And, I must say, so far we LOVE it out here in Arizona! We are in a small town but only about an hour from Tuscon and 3 hours from Phoenix, so it’s an awesome location and beautiful weather and scenery.


Even the dogs love our new place!

Miss anything?ย I missed my bed during these 2 weeks, haha. That’s all ๐Ÿ™‚

Movement:ย Yes, like crazy! She seems much more active in the evening, but her movement is getting so much more frequent.

Food cravings:ย I really wanted fajitas before we left El Paso and it was good while I was eating it, but now all Mexican food sounds gross ๐Ÿ˜ฆ I still have some food aversions and honestly not a lot of cravings. In a way I’m thankful for this as healthy, nutritious foods are what sound best- fruits, homemade smoothies, raw veggies with hummus or Greek yogurt dip, hard boiled eggs, cottage cheese and pita chips/crackers, granola. If I DO have a craving, I’ll of course indulge, but it hasn’t really happened that much. Oh wait- sushi sounded SO good during week 23, but that can’t happen ๐Ÿ˜‰

Anything making you feel queasy or sick: Chicken sometimes still or the thought of anything really sweet, but this isn’t constant. Red sauces still sound kinda gross.


So, we got rid of the floor lamp we’d been using to capture my weekly bump photos (it was a huge piece and was kinda broken). Unfortunately, this means I have to change how the weekly photos look, but I’m working on making the lighting better. Also, I don’t have a week 24 bumpdate pic ๐Ÿ˜ฆ Things got hectic and by the time I thought about it, it was Friday which meant I was 25 weeks the next day so I said f it ๐Ÿ˜‰

Workouts:ย I didn’t work out at all during these weeks. I’m still taking it easy due to the cervical length thing and with moving and unpacking, I figured that was enough. And let me tell ya, I really felt it in my back while unpacking! I’m sure it was being on my feet like all day (Tyler would make me take mini breaks here and there and put my feet up!) and the lifting and constantly bending over and putting things away/cleaning.

Showing? Yep ๐Ÿ™‚

Gender: Girl ๐Ÿ™‚

Symptoms: Movement, lower back ache, fatigue, food aversions, growing belly.

Belly button in or out? Pretty much flat.ย 

Wedding ring on or off?ย On

Emotions:ย Somewhat emotional about the move at times but excited as well. I also started getting anxious about our upcoming trip back home to Indiana. It will be a busy week, but I just want everything to go smoothly and for there to be no drama. I’m NOT putting up with any of that ๐Ÿ˜‰


Looking forward to:ย Spending lots of time with Tyler over the next few weeks (perks of the military- saving leave and getting 30 DAYS off! Such an amazing time for him to be home and I’m grateful for that). Exploring our new town. Setting up the nursery ๐Ÿ™‚ Going back to Indiana for a week with family/friends and our baby shower. It’s going to be bittersweet though as it’ll probably be the last time I stay at my mom’s condo during our trips home. I plan on sleeping there with my sister and brother (Tyler will sleep at his parents about 10 minutes away), but it’s a condo so there isn’t much extra room, and after the baby is born, we will want to stay together with her, of course! Might sound weird for us to split up during the week, but it’s just sleep and I’m comfortable- it’s home to me- so I don’t see the big deal. It’s great that we’re from the same hometown, but also tricky dividing time between the families.


I think I might use this look as I continue doing bump photos. Or the photo directly above. Thoughts? I love the antique look!

Whatโ€™s Going on with Baby:ย Baby is about 8.5 inches long and weighs about 1.5 pounds and is growing at a rapid pace. Her face is pretty much fully formed and she has eyelashes, eyebrows, and hair, although it’s white since there is no pigment yet. Her skin is still somewhat transparent, but this won’t last for very long as she starts piling on fat.

So that’s it! The past month has flown by and it’s crazy to think that I’m nearly 6.5 months pregnant now. A year ago, my husband was deployed and it sucked the life out of me just trying to get through the day without crying….but I don’t like thinking about that- it still makes me sad… Now that we’re settled, I should be posting 1-2 times a week again and have a few things on my agenda that I’ve been meaning to write about. I’ll be back early next week with a little update more focused on us rather than baby stuff! Hope everyone has a great weekend!

Pregnancy Update (Weeks 21 & 22)

***I’m late with posting this as I’m 23w4d, but the packers came last Friday so I made this post from my iPhone which I did NOT like, haha.ย 

Maternity clothes?ย Yes and no. I wore nothing but yoga pants/leggings the past two weeks and they weren’t maternity, but they were considered my “looser” ones before pregnancy. However, I have to wear the leggings under my belly which is more uncomfortable to me, so that isn’t gonna last much longer. I only do this with my “cheapy” Forever 21 leggings, NOT my nice ones from Nordstroms. Those are packed away and will not be stressed out! ๐Ÿ˜‰ Shirts are getting shorter, but I can still get away with most of my normal ones as long as they weren’t skin tight to begin with and are a little longer.

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I also started looking online for a dress for our shower the beginning of March (okay, I’ve only looked at Pink Blush, haha). It’s back home in Indiana so it’s gonna be cold which kinda limits things. I also think I wanna wear boots as I ain’t parading around in high heels for hours. That sucks the life out of me when I’m NOT pregnant, and I want to be comfortable, but cute, of course ๐Ÿ˜‰ If you have any suggestions, please let me know! I’ll hit up the mall within the next few weeks to find something decent to take with and hopefully go shopping with my mom and sis when we’re in town if if nothing I see out here appeals to me.

Stretch marks?ย ย Nope!

Sleep:ย I finally caught the cold that Tyler when I was exactly 21 weeks, and needless to say, it was awful. Sleep during that time wasn’t great, but thats expected when you can’t freaking breathe. I’m using the Snoogle every night. Keep in mind that we have a king sized bed so we fit comfortably still. Snoogle are massive, but I really think it was a good investment.

Best moment:ย Feeling her movements get stronger! I’ll seriously never get sick of feeling her.

While I was sick and napping, Tyler surprised me and made a batch of homemade lemon rice soup. He rarely cooks and he’s never made it before, but he went to the grocery store to get the ingredients and gave it a try- and it turned out AWESOME! I’ve been craving it from a restaurant back home and it was such a sweet gesture.

We also went house hunting and chose the home we will be living in while Tyler attends Captain Career Course. It’s newer and nicer than the one we’re in now, but also 400 square feet smaller. I’m hoping everything fits nicely!


Miss anything?ย Nope. I miss my family a lot though and I’m super excited to see them in early March!

Movement: Yes! I feel her a lot throughout the day and it’s so fucking awesome to see movement through my belly! Seriously my favorite part of everyday ๐Ÿ™‚ย 


Food cravings:ย No…still no real cravings. No fun, eh? Perhaps I’m one of those pregnant women that just don’t get wild cravings, but we still have a long while to go. Because a lot of things don’t sound great, I’ve been making a smoothie a day to help ensure I’m getting the extra calories I need. No, I don’t count calories, but I have a pretty good idea of what I eat amounts to.

Anything making you feel queasy or sick:ย Pretty much the same. I’m still not feeling desserts, but I can do hot chocolate once in a while. Pasta, marinara sauce, raw spinach, and plain chicken still sound gross (I can do chicken in dishes though, just the thought of chicken alone makes me feel sick). The thought of scrambled eggs makes me nauseous sometimes as well, but hard boiled eggs are good!

Workouts: They were nonexistent the 5 days that I pretty much laid around all day while I was sick.

I also got news at 22w4d that my cervical length was only measuring 2.6cm- the measurement before that, five weeks prior, was 3.5cm. This sent me into a panic as I know how real preterm labor can be and that your cervix will only continue to decrease as time goes on because the baby is growing bigger. We are also moving so I’ll be in between docs for a little bit and I didn’t want this to go left uncared for. My doc said there isn’t much we could do at this pint as I’m too far along for a clerege but not far enough along for the shot to help lung development should anything happen over the next few weeks. Plus, they don’t start to be concerned until it’s 2.5 or below (uhh .1cm away doesn’t seem like much but who knows!). So I was advised to take it easy- no heavy lifting or strenuous exercise and to take frequent breaks when I’m on my feet. I’ll be remeasured next week!ย ***I was remeasure yesterday at 23w3d and it was 2.9 at the shortest length! I’m still going to continue not overdoing it but it’s a relief that it was measuring a bit better ๐Ÿ™‚ย 

Showing?ย Yes! Although if I’m wearing a big hoodie and sweats I look completely normal, haha.

Gender: Girl ๐Ÿ™‚

Symptoms:ย Sneezing still. Bleeding gums when I floss! I know it’s gross but I was like wtf when it started happening. I floss every single night (super gross when people don’t and I’m trying to get my husband to at least use the waterpik), and I had a dentist appointment for a cleaning during week 21 (teeth look perfect, woo!) and they said it’s completely normal. I’m gonna miss my dentist office as they’re SO nice and thorough (I’ve been to quite a few over the years who have fucked up fillings and crowns)…one of the few downsides of moving!

I don’t think I’ve mentioned it before but my boobs are huge. I was always a 34C, then when I got off birth control and started really running and working out about 4-5 years ago, I dropped down to a 32C/34B. I kept all my bigger bras, but I’m literally spilling out of them. Maybe I’ll pick up a bigger cheapy one somewhere someday, haha.

Belly button in or out?ย In

Wedding ring on or off?ย On


Had to add this as he’s just so cute!!

Emotions:ย Kind of all over the place. We sold a few things in preparation of our move and I got super emotional because this cheap ass lady offered pretty much next to nothing for something that was considered “mine” before we were married (it was my moms and though it didn’t have a special meaning in our family, I got all bent about it, haha).

I’m anxious about the move but excited at the same time. I’m unbelievably happy most of the time though, and I’m still in awe when I look at myself in the mirror and see my belly or feel her kicking ๐Ÿ™‚

Looking forward to:ย Moving and getting our new home set up!

I know for sure I want maternity photos done, but I’m also playing around with the idea of getting ones done that are a little, I don’t know what word to use, sexier? Not like full blown nude, haha, but in tasteful lingerie and pearls. I hate a boudoir shoot done while Tyler was deployed and made him a book on Shutterfly and it turned out awesome! I know a lot of women don’t like pregnancy and bitch about blowing up and feeling unattractive, but I’m loving my new curves an growing belly and want to embrace it. I honestly don’t know if I’d feel the same way had we not experienced a miscarriage or trouble conceiving again, but I’m NOT taking this amazing time in my life for granted as it very well may never come again. What are your thoughts on this?

Whatโ€™s Going on with Baby:ย At 11 inches and almost 1 pound (about the size of a spaghetti squash), your baby is starting to look like a miniature newborn. His lips, eyelids, and eyebrows are becoming more distinct, and he’s even developing tiny tooth buds beneath his gums. His eyes have formed, but his irises (the colored part of the eye) still lack pigment. **Taken from!