Military Spouse Appreciation Day

Today is Friday and I’m off- woo! I’m looking forward to spending the day with Tyler. I’m in charge of planning what we’re doing this morning and he’s in charge of the afternoon, so we shall see how this turns out 🙂 I have to admit- I got a bit nervous about him coming home and thinking about if things changed between us, if he changed, etc. The whole period of being reunited and getting settled back into everyday life is called reintegration, and I read blogs and articles about how it can be a struggle. I may write more about this at a later time, but things have actually been the same around here, if not better 🙂

Anyways, today I’m linking up with Jen in honor or Military Spouse Appreciation Day (yes, this is a real thing, haha). I don’t even remember how I stumbled upon Jen’s blog (http://kyleandjensmith.blogspot.com/), but she writes about everyday life, running, and everything in between. The following questions were asked to be answered, so here we go

 

//Tell us about yourself and your blog.

My husband, Tyler, and I moved to El Paso (Fort Bliss) in June of 2012. I was a full time student at the time, trying to figure out this wife thing and finding my place in the world. I honestly don’t know how I got started reading blogs, but I think it was through finding healthy recipes to make for us online, haha. After a while, I realized that I don’t need a place in the world- I needed an outlet. After much encouragement from Tyler, I started Living in Bliss. At first it was to just document our time living in El Paso together… but then we got pregnant and endured a missed miscarriage at 14 weeks and I knew that this would be a great way to help me recover mentally and hopefully reach out to other women who are feeling alone and helpless. Now, I basically talk about our fertility issues and trying to conceive again, military life and deployment, crafts and DIY projects, and whatever the hell else I feel like 🙂

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June 2012. We spent a few nights on a blow up mattress while we waited for our furniture to be delivered 🙂

 

//What branch of military are you affiliated with?

My husband is a First Lieutenant in the Army. We’ve been together over five years, but married just under three. After attending Officer Candidate School (OCS) at Fort Benning, TJ went on to BOLC at Fort Sill, Oklahoma, and he proposed in Oklahoma City in April 2012. We married in El Paso that June- no messing around 😉 Long story short- Tyler enlisted in 2001, the year he graduated high school (he was actually in boot camp when 9/11 occurred). He signed up for six years, went through two tours in Iraq, lived in Italy and at Fort Campbell, and got out as a Staff Sergeant in 2007. He moved back to our hometown and we met in Februaury of 2010 (though we’re from the same town, we didn’t know each other despite having some “acquaintances” in common. T went to a different high school and is three years older than me…cradle robber!). Shortly before graduating college, he decided to go back in the army as an officer.

//What is one thing you enjoy about the military lifestyle?

This may sound odd, but I actually like the fact that we have moved away from our hometown and established a life for ourselves. Of course I miss our family and friends and it saddens me not seeing them often, but we’re always just a plane ride or phone call away. Although this is our first duty station together, I’m excited to move every few years and experience different places- not to mention all the traveling and visiting awesome places that we otherwise wouldn’t have experienced. My husband already has almost 10 years of service under his belt, so we won’t be living this life forever. I’m eager to see where we settle after he retires!

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Military Ball. December 2013. Found my dress for 10 bucks at Plato’s closet and did my own make up, nails, and hair 🙂

 

//What advice would you give other spouses who are new?

I have a few words of advice. First of all, do not listen to the generalizations of enlisted vs. officer wives. There are amazing spouses and those that are assholes on both sides of the fence. Also, not every duty station is gonna be a picnic. I never in a million years thought I’d be living in El Paso, and I heard lots of bad things about it. Yes, I miss the seasons, greenery, beaches, and knowing what everyone is saying out in public (my Espanola is not perfecto, haha), but it’s not forever. Go in with an open mind wherever you go and find the good in the area. I’ll admit that I never got involved with the FRG, but I know that’s helped a lot of spouses. There are other ways to get involved though and there are services on post that help with job searching (ACS). I feel as though many spouses use frequent moves (or in my current situation, because El Paso is primarily a Spanish speaking community) as a crutch to not be able to further their education or land a job. Annoying. 😉 Keep a positive mind set and don’t bitch at your husband about where you’re stationed. Go on day trips and invest time into hobbies you enjoy.

 

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One of our many day trips. This was at White Sands in New Mexico 🙂

 

Also, deployment isn’t a matter of if, it’s a matter of when. Tyler’s last deployment was sprung upon us- he literally left within two weeks of being notified. That rocked my world as he was in a non-deployable unit, haha. My biggest piece of advice is to stay busy. We obviously don’t have children and if we did, it would have been different. Seriously- get a job, volunteer, learn something new- do whatever you can to stay busy as it’ll make time go by faster.

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Lounging around watching movies in late 2012.

 

 

If anyone has any questions, feel free to ask! I hope to connect with some awesome ladies 🙂 If you’re affiliated with the military, what is one thing you enjoy/despise about the lifestyle and what advice would you give fellow spouses or significant others?

Hope everyone has a fabulous weekend! I’ll be back next week to talk about some DIY projects, healthy recipes, and fertility stuff 🙂

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I Have Nothing but a Survey…

I’m trying to get back into blogging…but honestly, I have no motivation. I was given this survey by a fellow blogger, and I’m relaxing with my boys tonight while watching Elf, so figured I’d give it a go.

 

The Four Survey

 

Four names that people call me other than my real name:

  1. Kimmy
  2. Kimby (Tyler’s name to me when I’m being a huge biach illogical/irrational or not agreeing with him)
  3. Boo (Tyler’s endearing name to me)
  4. Big Saf back in the day? haha. My mom calls me Kimbers, and my dad calls me Kimberly.

 

Four jobs I’ve had:

  1. babysitter
  2. sales associate/manager at a tanning salon (for like 5 years…but moved to AZ and back for 6 months in between).
  3. stay at home wife/student…I was taking 6 classes so I wasn’t really a stay at home anything, I just wasn’t bringing in a paycheck 😦 Can I do this forever?
  4. Assistant manager at a global retailer

 

Four movies I’ve watched more than once:

  1. Forrest Gump
  2. Titanic
  3. Big
  4. Stepbrothers

 

Four books I’d recommend:

  1. Something Borrowed (and Something Blue) by Emily Giffin…Do NOT read her latest book, The One and Only. Sucks…and I’ve read everything by her.
  2. Me Before You by JoJo Moyes….SO GOOD
  3. The Husband’s Secret by Liane Moriarty…What Alice Forgot and The Hypnotist’s Love Story are also good. Currently reading Big Little Lies.
  4. The Bridges of Madison County by Robert James Waller. My grandma gave me this book to read in middle school. She was also a fan of Nicholas Sparks (middle finger to all you haters…sometimes it’s MORE than just a cheesy love story). She’d buy his books and read them then give them to me to read and we’d talk about them afterwards….hence, my soft spot for these novels…and I’ll continue to buy them. Unfortunately, some hardbacks got ruined when her basement was flooded, but I’m trying to buy them back despite being paperback (no, I don’t want these in my kindle…to personal!).

 

Four places I’ve lived

  1. Merrillville, IN
  2. Valparaiso, IN
  3. Gilbert, AZ
  4. El Paso, TX

 

Four places I’ve visited:

  1. Numerous places on the Gulf Coast of Florida…Indian Shores being my favorite!
  2. The Bahamas
  3. Las Vegas
  4. Oklahoma City…I obviously need to travel more…TYLER… 😉

 

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Carefully holding my drank!

 

Four places I’d rather be right now:   I’d obviously rather be with my husband (or family) anywhere, but that ain’t happening, so I’m writing where I’d like to go someday.

  1. The Mediterranean (Spain, Greece, Italy, France, Croatia, wherever!). Anywhere that is lined with the ocean in Europe. Sorry, I know there’s a shit ton of history there, but I want beautiful, tranquil scenery.
  2. San Fransisco and Yosemite Park
  3. New York City- I’m not a city girl by any means, but I think it’d be fun to go here for a long weekend and compare it to Chicago
  4. Some resort with white sandy beaches and crystal clear water

 

Four things I prefer not to eat:

  1. Salmon
  2. Sauerkraut
  3. Pretty much anything fried
  4. Not a fan of hot sauce…so anything with that.

 

Four of my favorite foods:

  1. Italian (pizza, pasta)
  2. Avocado
  3. Greek yogurt
  4. Honey crisp apples

 

Four TV shows I watch:

  1. House Hunters
  2. The Real Housewives of Orange County
  3. Started Orange is the New Black before TJ left…but haven’t brought myself to finish the season. Though we watched and own the entire series, I’ve been watching Breaking Bad randomly again.
  4. Old 90’s shows (Full House, Home Improvement, Growing Pains, The Wonder Years, Step by Step, Boy Meets World, etc.) I’m lame.

 

Four things I’m looking forward to this year:    (doing 2015)

  1. TYLER COMING HOME
  2. TYLER COMING HOME
  3. TYLER COMING HOME
  4. A long weekend home in January

 

Four things I’m always saying:

  1. I love you/I miss you
  2. Wrigley!!!! Come!
  3. Stiffler!!! Stiffler!!! Stiffler!! Stiffler! Stifffffllllerrrr!!!!! Come. (he is either confused that I’m his REAL mom or he doesnt give a fug, haha).
  4.  Oh my god/No way

 

Four people I tag to answer these questions:

  1. Lauren from Laurealism
  2. Elizabeth from Elizabeth Loves
  3. Dani from Love Comma Mom
  4. Dawn from Our Greatest Desire

Ten Things You May Not Know About Me (Childhood Edition)

I don’t know why, but I love learning weird, random facts about people, especially those I’m closest to. Today I wanted to share some things about myself that most people, aside from tight family and friend relationships, don’t know 🙂

1. I HATE being splashed while in the water. It’s not even a matter of not getting my hair wet (who goes swimming and doesn’t get their hair wet?), it’s just annoying, and sometimes I have my contacts in. If you splash me, I’ll either attack you or tell you to bug off and get out (not really childhood- I’ve always been like this!) 🙂

2. My favorite cereals growing up were Cap’n Crunch Crunch Berries, Cinnamon Toast Crunch, Apple Cinnamon Cheerios, and Cinnamon Life (although I don’t know if these were around when I was super young). Berry Kix, Reese Puffs, and Lucky Charms were shortly behind.

I got this picture from a site entitled “Kid’s Cereal: 85% More Sugar, 65% Less Fiber Than Adults”. This stuff definitely needs to be considered a treat and not a way to start one’s day.

3. One summer when I was 8 years old or so, my cousin Brad and I had a “Who Can Eat the Most Oatmeal Crème Pies the Fastest Contest”. I lost, got sick, and 20 years later cannot fathom even trying a bite of one again.

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4. When I was in elementary school, I wanted to be a psychologist when I grew up. I don’t know why or how I learned what a psychologist even was (mama has seen a few in my later years, but never when I was little!).

 

Anyone else remember this slide that hurt your ass like no other? Shit hurt.

5. I LOVED having a brother so much when I was little that I wanted my sister to be a boy, too. In fact, I wanted his name to be Randy (as in J.T.T. from Home Improvement). Another fact: parent’s never found out the gender of my siblings and me (I’m sure the grammar is wrong in this sentence). This whole big hoopla may have not been as prominent back in the 80s/90s, but I LOVE this! (Who the hell did gender reveal parties back then…guess we need to find a reason to get gifts or be the center of attention at any occasion, eh?…just kidding…not, haha).

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Camping! Probably have to pay me to go now 😉

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I even named my second kitten Simba when I was little. My first pet’s name was K.C.- short for Kim and Chris 🙂

6.) I’ve thought John Stamos was a fox since I was 5 years old. Seriously. I wanted my brother to be named Jesse. My Ken dolls were named Jesse. I’d name Tyler Jesse if I could…kidding for real 😉 This hawk is my mom’s age, but he’ll always be on my list even when he’s old balls. Click on the links below to listen to my favorites of him- I know I’m super lame!!!

For the Times

Forever

 

 

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Yellllooo.

7.) I am was OBSESSED with the Care Bears and Strawberry Shortcake. Going to the video store to rent VHS movies was the highlight of my life. Sadly, this fascination continued on into adulthood and over time I have acquired most of the 1980 Care Bears movies either on VHS or DVD, and a few Strawberry. Berenstain Bears were also up there, as was Rainbow Bright, Lady Lovely Locks, and My Little Pony. Please tell me I’m not the only one that loved 1980’s/90’s cartoons….

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8.) I hated my name in elementary and middle school. I thought Kimberly was supposed to be a 1960’s hippie or housewife. When my friends and I would go to Discovery Zone and I’d always say my name was Stacy or Rachel I went on to learn in my later years were two slutty names. JUST KIDDING! Seriously…kidding. There are plenty of hoes named Kim out there, I’m sure 😉

I could actually kinda agree with this…although I now express my emotions openly for the most part 😉

 

9.) I’ve wanted to name my future daughter Skylar since the fifth grade. I babysat a little girl who had this name and fell in love with it instantly. This went on for years until I met my now husband- Tyler. I still held onto it while we were dating, but the whole rhyming thing started bugging me over time. Then TJ and I watched the entire Breaking Bad series, and he said no fucking way to the name (he hated Skylar, haha). I was pretty much over it at that point…Skylar Singleton sounds kinda porn-ish…and if we have a future daughter, we want her to be good like her mom 😉

10.) Halloween has always been my favorite holiday. My birthday and Christmas are too close together (my birthday is exactly 2 weeks after Christmas), so that always blew donkey balls. You get ripped off (a combined gift is not cool, people!), people are broke, or you’re forgotten about. It’s -20 degrees and there’s 4 feet of snow on the ground…yep, definitely complaining, haha.

Anyways, my mom used to dress us up and show excitement about Halloween, so I think that’s why I love it so much.

Isn’t this the cutest thing ever?! What exactly are we supposed to be though, mom? Farmers? haha 😉

My mom made/bought odds and ends at a thrift store to make this outfit. Most little girls are princesses or some shit, but nope- I was a bum! No offense, but I like this better- plus, it probably cost them WAY less! P.S. My dad looks like Mario in this pic :/

I actually graduated in 2004, mother 🙂

Marge Simpson, compliments of Good Will. The Homer disguise kinda freaked me out…can you tell? We won best costume at the party we went to though!

 

What are some random childhood facts about yourself?

 

Did you have a favorite food, name, job, TV show, holiday?